When I first saw this I thought it would be really handy for women whose fellers can’t find the clit, to point it out, but I was mistaken. I’m not talking about that big pink soft looking… thing… over there though, because how would that thing be helpful for clit-discovery class? It doesn’t even have an actual, ya know, clit on it… or maybe it’s just a real teeny one…. No, it’s actually a skin dye called “My New Pink Button”. As usual, I’m all worked up about what other people are saying, and being all contrary and what-not…
Jezebel got a tip, possibly from someone who watched the segment on “The Doctors”:
According to our tipster, the product was invented by a woman “of a certain age” who discovered that she had “lost her luster” down there.
Well, I can’t find a thing about the creator of the product saying she developed it because she’d “lost her luster” ‘down there’. What I did find was this blurb on the products “about us” page:
Perhaps the ‘tipster’ saw this product somewhere else, and the creator did speak about her own luster-loss, but I wouldn’t know that since it’s not mentioned in the post. Going by the blurb above, the product seems to have been developed for post-operative individuals. Age, and the changes brought about from age are mentioned here and there on the FAQ and the ‘testimonials’ page – but I haven’t found anything that could be considered pushing the product on the basis of what is “youthful”. Jez continues:
… — if you didn’t know you were supposed to have a “youthful” look between your legs, doesn’t the discovery of this stuff foster insecurity?
WHAT THE FUCK. Women make about 75¢ for every dollar that men earn. Shoes, handbags and fashion “must-haves” are aggressively marketed to us. We’re expected to be thin, wrinkle-free and not have any gray hair (which, of course, is “distinguished” on a man)…. And now we need to shell out cash so that our labia can to be the “right” color?
So sometimes your ladybits change color when you age or after you have children. Who cares? Why be embarrassed? If your parts work, and there’s someone in your life who wants to get up close and personal and explore your secret garden, you should have no complaints. …
And now I will say: WHAT THE FUCK.
This product is NOT marketed to the Jezebel audience. In fact, I don’t really think this product is “marketed” anywhere outside of plastic surgeons and dermatologists offices, and that horrid program the “Doctors” (which I heard once pushed anti-marijuana propaganda saying smoking it gave men prostate cancer) I suppose it would have been better to keep hush about it? Those nasty lady bits, lets not even talk about them and how they change. No, even talking about the change means we must hate the change! It must mean we are misogynists somehow. Menopause? Woman-Hater! How dare you mention that?!
It’s frustrating that the program that “marketed” the product was barely mentioned, because the whole “youth” obsession is rampant on that show. Instead all the hate was heaped onto one individual woman who created a product for women. So, maybe it’s not a “true feminist” product, but it is a product, it’s out there and it’s existence could have led to a better discussion. The segment on the Doctors had a bit about if your bits turn “very white”, you might need to get checked for “Lichens Sclerosus” :
Lichen sclerosus is a long-term problem of the skin. It mostly affects the genital and anal areas. Sometimes, lichen sclerosus appears on the upper body, breasts, and upper arms.
Early in the disease, small white spots appear on the skin. The spots are usually shiny and smooth. Later, the spots grow into bigger patches. …
Lichen sclerosus of the genital skin should be treated. Even if it isn’t painful or itchy, the patches can scar. This can cause problems with urination or sex. There is also a very small chance that skin cancer may develop in the patches. Surgery is normally a good option for men. Circumcision (removing the foreskin on the penis) is the most widely used therapy for men with lichen sclerosus. The disease usually does not come back. Surgery is normally not a good option for women. When the lichen sclerosus patches are removed from the genitals of women and girls, they usually come back.
Again, WHAT THE FUCK? Look there, a piece of information that might actually be helpful to some woman somewhere. Pity that Jezebel didn’t talk about that, though I guess it’s best if we leave the serious blogging about women’s sex-related medical issues up to the folks at FeministsWithFSD.
And I love the assumption that the women who might use this product have someone wanting to get up close and personal, I guess we shouldn’t talk about how one might discuss a personal and unique situation with a new lover, we just shouldn’t complain.
The whole thing, by that I mean the reaction on many many blogs is from the reference point of women who have no use for this product; somewhat younger women who have not had breast cancer, yet, or surgery where reconstruction is considered a valid option. If they want to argue on whether or not reconstruction or cosmetic surgery is a good thing, then they should argue about that. Arguing about a product developed for that use is pointless. It’s all assumed to be about “age” and “expectations” about aging, beauty standards and expectations about beauty, but it’s still up to an individual, and any individual who has this product is probably feeling real goddamned shitty right about now.
Dodai mentions that “discovery” of this product will lead to insecurity – but it seems to me that the teasing and derision on Jezebel would make me more insecure than simply finding out about some products existence. TPoH rang in too, with:
Pink Button exists only because of the beauty culture propaganda that tells our normal, healthy bodies are ugly…. the creators get bonus misogyny points for ageism. … a vulva that’s not glistening pink and “youthful” works just fine
Ahem. Who’s being ageist here? Who’s being “normal”-ist here? What about people who are not “normal, healthy”, and what the hell does that mean anyway? A “not glistening” twat works “just fine?” Really???? Hmmmm, I guess that depends on what is meant by “glistening” and “works” and “fine”, because it’s been my experience that the glisten really, really helps.