And a bit of deja vu too. Katie Roiphe, Mary Daly – what do these two women have in common BESIDES both being mentioned one atop the other on several blogs over the past couple days?
Here’s a clue:
Why do so many people use the “can you cite that?” crap when it’s already been expressly explained in derailing for dummies that such simple research is something people should do for themselves.
That so many people were unaware of Mary Daly’s transhate is shameful. I didn’t read her books, but I fucking went and searched out parts of it to read, and I found RIGHT AWAY that there was a problem. It wasn’t hidden, all it takes is googling ”Mary Daly”.
Another article about un-marrieds having sex is in the news, the study is titled:
“Casual Sex and Psychological Health Among Young Adults: Is Having “Friends with Benefits” Emotionally Damaging?”
Seriously – Here’s a discussion from BBC radio I think (do they even have radios over there? : P ) and it says it’s only available online for a few more days, so listen while you can.
1) They have a panel discussion of 3 anti-prostitution moral crusader types – (who say things like it’s good to stigmatize prostitution, so good girls won’t stray) – and just one “former prostitute”/journalist/mother of 6 kids who also -kicker!: went to jail for making false rape allegations -which of COURSE bothers the hell out of me and that shit ought to bother the hell out of everyone but here’s the thing that all y’all haters better understand – really fucking understand – that’s why they chose her – to discredit the prostitute’s rights movement. If you think they did the right thing by trying to discredit the prostitution rights movement you’re an asshole. It’s fair and balanced don’t ya know, because they have the sacrificial lying dirty whore there to represent all the rest of us lying dirty whores. Wonderful.
- Someone at the forum I found this on, which I will endeavor to find the link to in a moment (ah-ha) observed something about one of the moral crusaders that was really key -
Female Sexual Slavery, by Kathleen Barry, originally published in 1979.
I read this book when I was 12. The title was too hard to resist, I was afraid the cashier wouldn’t sell it to me, so I stole it.
The only 2 reviews on Amazon: (wheeeee! look, I learned that tables copy right over in visual mode – I’s so smart~)
Oh well, I submitted this one to feministing community section, and it wasn’t approved. Maybe it was too slutty?
I was very sexual. My earliest memory is from when I was about 4, sharing the bed with my female cousin, and we were exploring our ‘pee-pees’, touching each others – and my dad walked into the room and fussed at us to go to sleep, “y’all quit that, go to sleep!” I know he could tell we were exploring, I could tell he didn’t quite know what to say. I know he just wanted us to go to sleep already, the way all parents just want the kids to go to sleep already.
My next notable memory was when I was 7 or so, and I was telling a friend from down the street that I masturbate – of course I didn’t put it that way – I think we were talking about stuff we “loved” that felt good, like sneezing or spinning in circles, and I said something about rubbing myself on a pillow. She asked what I meant, and when I explained, she told me that what I was doing was bad and I wasn’t supposed to do it. I asked “Why, who says?” - “It just is. You just aren’t.” she said. I vaguely remember that she said the bible said not to, and I vaguely remember thinking “what do bibles have to do with anything?” – I told her she should try it anyway, ’cause it feels amazing. She told me to go home, and then I wasn’t allowed to play with her anymore.
Today marks the 11th annual Transgender Day of Remembrance, and it’s not just a day where we are supposed to remember-to-remember that transgender people exist, but a day to remember all the transgender people who have been killed out of ignorance, bigotry and hatred.